I think I’m living on a different planet or perhaps, I grew up on a different one and was somehow transported here without my knowledge. Girls just entering their teens are posting half naked and provocative selfies online, 14 year olds are committing suicide, teens are threatening others for their boyfriends/girlfriends, some even openly staking their claim on another person. Is this what this world has come to? As a parent, I’m deeply concerned about the type of world that my kids are growing up in. I have to be on the lookout for child molesters, perverts, my kids going into depression due to social pressures, an increased homework load for children (including preschoolers apparently!), social media perverts and an entire shit load of things. It’s not like the usual drugs, alcohol and bad influence, nope.. If my paranoia sets in, my kids will be home schooled and isolated until I fix their marriages with a partner of my choice.
And ya’ll know I HATE those God-like people that pass judgements upon others. The 14 year old girl committed suicide this week and there are already internet trolls judging the child. I mean, come on, the child is DEAD and GONE. What more do you want now? You were not living the child’s life, you don’t know what her struggles were, so what’s the deal? You’re picking on the mentality of the child, dude, come on.. SHE WAS 14! How many stupid things did you do at 14?!?
Then the DROS incident.. we have amazing God like people in this world, who has never made a mistake. While the whole world SHOULD be focusing on the fact that a 20 year old man raped the 6 or 7 year old girl, South Africa has now made this a racial issue. Not only that, South Africa has also turned this into a blame game, pounding the mother of the child with questions like “How could the mother leave the child alone?”. Okay my people, I’m sure you never made a mistake or turned your back for a second, or just did something without analyzing the whole flippen situation about a million times right?!?
I will admit, I’ve also had questions but let’s try and respect these situations a little. It is a sensitive topic and no matter how many questions you pose about the mother of the child, SHE is NOT the criminal. The man that forced himself upon an innocent little girl, who had no way of fighting back, is the real criminal. He is the one that sat at that restaurant and preyed on the innocent little children that came through it’s doors. We know this world is filled with what if’s, but when it’s already happened, there’s no use saying what if.
I agree that we should not be leaving our children unattended anywhere and at any time. I agree that we should be strengthening our children at home so that they do not fall into bad company BUT when such sensitive things happen, we should also respect the situation.
To all parents, I urge you to keep your child with you AT ALL TIMES if possible, when going out. If you can’t, make sure that they are with a trustworthy, reliable person. Speak to your children about appropriate touches and educate them on their body. Make them feel safe and loved enough to come forward and speak out against anyone who may be abusing them. DO NOT dismiss your child’s complaints or accusations. If you make your child aware that their word is taken seriously, they will have no problem in coming forward and speaking their mind to you about anyone that could be hurting them. DO NOT force your children to give hugs and kisses to others. Teach your children how to fight back; self defense is a MUST these days.
Also, please get involved in your child’s life. Yes, I know that many of you are busy with your day to day runnings, work and other activities. I know many of you also have more than one child, but instead of spending that 15 to 20 minutes on facebook, chat to your child. Get to know them, what’s going on with them, the type of friends they have and how their days are. Make sure that they know that you are there for them through everything and suicide and other harmful actions are not answers to their problems.
Another thing that we should do as parents, is to educate our children on good uses of social media. You don’t have to ban them from social media completely, but lets educate them on how to use social media responsibly and that posting provocative pictures online is just asking for trouble. We need to teach our children how to RESPECT their bodies and the bodies of others.
We need to educate our children that having a boyfriend or girlfriend is not everything and that social status at school does not determine your social status throughout life.
Remember that if we, as adults, can make mistakes; children too are allowed to make their own mistakes and it’s up to us to forgive them and educate them on how to correct those mistakes. I know it all sounds like hard work, but you brought these kids into this world, its only fair that you look out for them and teach them to be good human beings.
The Opinionated Wife
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